Counselling West Bridgford


Couples Therapy

Couples Institute Developmental Model
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I have been working with couples since 2020, and in 2022 decided it was time to underpin that work with some focused couples therapy study with leaders in the field: The Couples Institute in the USA.

Exciting opportunity

It was so exciting to have my work supervised in training by Dr Ellyn Bader.  Ellyn is one of the early founders of “couples therapy” and co-founder of The Couples Institute.  She is also author of In Quest of The Mythical Mate and Co-creator of the Development Model.

Dr Bader describes this approach to couples therapy as “A process that allows the partners to be themselves, to be who they are, to develop their own self-awareness, their own capacities to internally self-reflect”.

How couples therapy can help

Are you and your partner struggling to communicate? Do you feel unhappy in your relationship? Do find yourselves arguing or responding in passive-aggressive ways? Does your relationship feel stuck? Are you keen to develop a healthy relationship and would like some coaching to achieve that? Would you like to learn to support each other’s personal growth?

It will perhaps come as a surprise to you that although we are aiming to improve your relationship, I will be asking you to set your own, autonomous goals separate from your partner. 

And whilst every fibre of your being may want to blame your partner and you think it’s them that has to change, my challenge to you is to look inwards and start to think about what it is you can change for the better.

A great example is that I often find one partner wants the other to open up, only to discover when we start to practice speaking and listening, they immediately try to tell their partner, when they do open up, they are wrong!

Appointment availability

You’ll be expected to find a day / time that you can attend regularly , in -person, each week.  After a number of appointments we may move to fortnightly.

How will it work?

I expect our work to begin with a 90 minute goal setting / orientation appointment, followed by weekly 60-minute therapy sessions.

We will have 2 appointments where I see you individually, and they will be near the beginning of our work together.  This helps me to understand where you are in the relationship, and things I may need to know that you aren’t yet ready to talk to your partner about.

Before your first appointment I will send you some information about how to get the most from couples therapy, and a questionnaire to complete individually.  This helps with self-reflection, and helps us get off to a meaningful start.


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I may ask you for additional consent to audio record our sessions, although this is optional and we will discuss in our initial session.

Want to find out more?

If you’d like to find out more and to see if I can help, you can book an initial telephone consultation here.  You can also email or call me on 07968767232.

I look forward to hearing from you soon.

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