Here are the answers to a few questions that you might have
So what is counselling or coaching? Sometimes it can be helpful to talk to someone other than those you know. To talk about and explore what you are thinking and feeling.
Counselling and coaching with me is confidential.
What is the difference between counselling and coaching? Honestly: not a lot! Other than I tend to think of coaching as exploring opportunity and counselling as exploring troubles although of course our time together I expect to be a mixture of both.
You may be anxious, worried, sad, depressed, grieving, dealing with trauma, struggling with relationships, not sure where life is taking you, or considering new opportunities or positive changes that are happening around and to you. See the end of this post for a more comprehensive list.
If you are new to this, counselling or coaching may seem strange at first. One thing to know is that I don’t have a menu of treatments or provide homework tasks.
It’s what can be described as a “safe space” which simply means a period of time, that is all yours, with no agenda and no judgment. And our conversation is confidential. My objective is to be alongside you as you explore whatever you need.
I provide a free, ten minute telephone consultation which can help you decide if counselling, coaching is for you. book here
For some of you getting stuck in will be easy. Others find it tricky to get started.
You might have questions like: How do I start? What to say at all? What’s most important? Does Michelle NEED to know all my history? Can I say what I’m really thinking? Am I allowed to say whatever I want? What will she THINK of me if I’m truly honest?
Or thoughts like: I’m sure she’ll think I’m just complaining. I’m probably being stupid. My idea is pie in the sky. Others deserve this more than me.
Be assured this is normal. And there are certainly no rules of how you should “do” counselling. The only thing you have to do is turn up as you, however you are at that moment. I usually ask something like “what brings you to counselling?” to set us off.
Often, discussing with me how you feel about counselling or coaching can be a great place to start.
I fundamentally believe that the person who knows best what is right for you, is YOU. My job is to be alongside you as you work out what is helpful, what stands in your way and how you move forward.
Counselling isn’t always easy. Sometimes it can feel as if you are getting worse, not better.
Although it’s a light-hearted example, I find it helpful to compare it to when I decide to clear out the cupboard under the stairs. Things always get much messier before I can decide what I want, what I don’t want and then put everything back that’s left. It’s a bit like that. And at least as tiring. And sometimes things drop on my head that hurt. But worth it in the end. I had non-stop, weekly counselling for four years and my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.
- Career change / progression
- to explore Childhood experiences
- Communication skills
- improved personal Expression
- Life dissatisfaction
- Leadership skills
- Major life transitions (e.g. marriage, divorce, changing careers)
- Looking for a more meaningful life
- Personal development
- Relationship problems (partner, friends, family, colleagues)
- To improve self-esteem, increase confidence
Watch our "Therapy Myths" Vlog
Jess Taylor, 3rd year Psychology Student at Nottingham Trent University, interviews Michelle on the myths surrounding counselling and pscyhotherapy: